Progressive realization of worthy goals is called success. A single common thing in most human beings is, "will to succeed". Though each one may have different goals but everyone wants realization of his or her goals.
For majority of people today; success means lots of money, fame, swanky life style, good relationships, healthy body etc. Amount of material wealth is a key measurement of success for most. (I am not suggesting that it is right or wrong, but undoubtedly money plays the key role in measurement of success in today’s world)
Now here is what I submit, (when we are talking about success) actually we are looking for fulfillment of human needs; need to have bodily comfort, need to feel significant, need to be loved, need to be recognized, need to feel fulfilled etc. or basically we may say it is need to be happy. And without any doubt material wealth is important in getting closer to fulfill all these needs. Now the question is “Is money for human needs (happiness)? Or are human needs (happiness) for money?” The answer is too obvious that primarily it is money for happiness and not vice versa. This means, if we are successful in earning lots of money but loose our happiness in the process then that is not a good way to be successful, in fact that is not success at all.
So what is the way out of this?
Money always comes as a byproduct of some activity. Be it becoming a sports star, creating value through businesses, serving as a professional or doing any other work. That means money is the effect & the work we do is the cause. Mistake we often commit is, because of increasing material requirements and influence of environment, we start relating our happiness from the amount of money we generate through our work. When focus on effect (money) grows too much, obviously focus on cause (work) reduces. As a consequence of this, quality of work goes down, which in turn becomes a main cause for low quality results. A big reason for under-performance. This ultimately culminates into increasing mental stress, unethical activities and turbulent life.
A typical example of under-performance due to misplaced focus is, "a batsman getting out on 90 plus runs and falling short of century. Too much focus on century (once he crosses 90 runs) takes away his focus from playing each ball properly, and thus making him more vulnerable to get out. [Sachin Tendulkar would have scored at least a dozen centuries more if he could managed to maintain focus on playing each ball(while playing on 90 plus runs) rather than becoming too conscious of century]
While dreaming about our goals; rather than visualizing the results, it is better to visualize the joy of work involved into that. If work becomes joyful, focus on the process becomes natural and good rusult eventual. Money as a byproduct of the work you love to indulge; is the best way to earn. This is the only way in which your happiness will not be the cost of your success.
The language should be, I love working on my subjects, I enjoy the process of creating value through my business, I cherish my workouts; and that is why I end up making companies queue for me (to offer me jobs) after my education, I end up growing monetarily year after year in my business and I end up having a great physic.
That is how Thomas Edison could say
“I never did a day's work in my life. It was all fun.”
Dr. Vivek Modi
Success Coach and Corporate Trainer