‘Think out of the box’ has become a cliche among many who want to be creative. But let’s think for a moment, from where and how does this ‘box’ come?
A child doesn’t have this 'box'. And that is why his or her imagination knows no bounds.
What happens to the grownups? As we experience, learn and grow, we get conditioned to think in a pattern. It happens mostly subconsciously. Because of this comes the tendency to react rather than respond. Reaction is a result of conditioned reflex, while response is a more conscious decision. For some it is also a shield against the anxiety of uncertainty. That’s why many are hesitant (or rather incapable) to explore beyond their conditioned thought process. And this is the ‘box’.
Knowledge (acquired through schooling or experiences) should usually be of help in taking informed decisions. But to think that all the decisions can be made only based on knowledge or experiences is going to the another extreme. As the saying goes “Known is a drop and unknown is an ocean”. Beyond our limited ideas, there are always new possibilities. There are different perspectives and sometimes unexplored scenarios.
We need to free our imagination from the clutches of memories. Only then at perception level we become objective, only then we truly can appreciate any experience without contamination.
So let’s our knowledge not interfere in perception. Let’s ask “why” and “why not” little more frequently. Let’s open the doors of new possibilities. We may not be able to get rid of the box, but let’s be aware that we have a box to deal with.
Control and freedom seem to be paradoxical terms. The more something is controlled the more it loses its freedom. But it is very interesting that the more sense of control we have the more free we feel. Think about it!
No, I am not suggesting about control over everything around you. It’s the control over yourself, which truly liberates you. The control, which enables you to say yes to the things you really want to say ‘yes’ and no to the things you want say ‘no’. It’s your ability to make or break with your habits. It’s your ability to say something to someone and not just think about saying it. It’s your ability to make “YOUR BODY” listen to you. It’s your ability to wake up at the time you decided to wake up. It’s your ability to say ‘sorry’ or ‘very good’ to someone when you truly want to. It’s your ability to eat or not eat what you decided about just a night ago. It’s your ability to implement things which no one else but you planed about.
Mere thinking about such control over ourselves makes us feel pleasant. It shows that most of us are imprisoned by ourselves. No one else is more responsible than us about our present condition. And no one else is more capable than us to free ourselves from this self created prison.
So tell yourself...
“’The first person, I will always obey, is me.”
“The one person, I will never lie to, is me.”
“The first person, I will respect, is me.”
“The first person, I will always believe in, is me.”
“The first person, I am answerable to, is me.”
Be your own boss.
Take charge and be free!
The word ‘negativity’ has become a cliche. We often feel that in present world there is more ‘bad’ than ‘good’; that ‘wrong’ is rule and ‘right’ is exception; that there is more ‘unfair’ than ‘fair’. I believe that is not a correct observation.
Finding out what is wrong is a safety mechanism for us. The sooner we know what is wrong, the safer we can remain. Our natural tuning is to first look at what is not going the way it should go. ‘Good’ is not less but it is talked about less and ‘bad’ is not more but it is talked about more. An unhealthy part of body gets attention while healthy ones are ignored. Similarly a bad employee usually gets more focus than a good one. Acts of crime find place in headlines while acts of goodness are overlooked.
Sustainability of the existence is on the one simple fact that things which are right have to be more than things which are wrong. And the fact that the world is still growing suggests that ‘good’ still outweighs ‘bad’. Yes we are sitting on high potential; potential to destruct as well as build is higher today than ever. But reign is still in the hands of ‘good’. ‘Wrong’ probably prepares a playground for ‘right’ to play the game of goodness and restore the drifting balance. Then why it’s so important to counter ‘badness’? One may wonder!
I have no doubt that even today the world has more good people than bad. What should worry us though, that apart from its natural ability to get noticed easily, ‘bad' is being marketed well and made to look glamorous. It is made to look more fashionable, exciting and tempting. The vulgar reality of ‘bad’ in long-term remains concealed to most. Therefore chances of it growing faster are high, and that is why, it is important for us to counter it intelligently.
We must realize that ‘goodness’ is a great product which is often not marketed well. In most areas long term benefit of ‘goodness’ are not getting its due attention. The need today is that we must glamorize ‘goodness’, it must be made a brand worth being proud about. We not only need role models for goodness, we also need to see that they get noticed. We must figure out the ways to make it more attractive and palatable. A gift with a good packing often finds the first attention of receiver. Yes the gift (goodness) is great but the packaging needs to improve as well.
Be it Einstein or Kalam, Picasso or Davinci, Gandhi or Mandela , Jobs or Tata. Each one of them is great not just because of their ability to think about their purpose but it is their ability to feel for their purpose.
For ability to act comes only with ability to feel.
You are always thinking about your purpose but are you also feeling for it?
Thinker in you would become a doer only if you feel honestly about your purpose.
Thoughts + Feeling = Action
The single most important thing for success is our ability to Focus.
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Dr. Vivek Modi
Success Coach and Corporate Trainer